June 28th Report

Last Saturday we played 3 matches and won the series 2-1. I think we lost the first match after having the game in our hand. After losing the toss, we were asked to bowl first and we bowled out the opposition team for only 40 runs  We messed it up while chasing this small total and bundled out for only 32 runs, conceding the opposition a lead 1-0. We came back strongly and won the next 2 matches to clinch the series 2-1. As usual bowlers did a wonderful job. Most of us wanted to mix up the players from both the teams and we did this last week to an extent. Rana and Kiran played against us! We should continue to mix the players especially bowlers so that the batsmen from both teams get opportunity to play against all the bowlers and similarly bowlers also get an opportunity to bowl at different batters.

This week I thought of sharing some perspectives on “Team”. When we mean team, it could just be  the “group” we are playing for that comes to our mind – which is very natural. However, my reference to “Team” here is about the associations that we all intend to make – during successes and failures.

Per popular sayings “ Success  has many fathers, and failures  has none” , I think the corollary is rather a stronger truth! What I mean by this is – when we are successful, others folk to us, and we feel good about it. When we fail at something, we will go after those who are not so successful and embrace them as our ‘friends’!

Let us say we set out on a goal to reduce weight or enjoy a movie – which are both positives that we would have taken from some of the successful people around us. When we are through this journey of either reducing weight after a few days or post the three hours of movie, we come out and feel we did not achieve our objectives! Immediately, we not only find reasons for being unsuccessful, but also start to ‘seek out´ to those in our circles who have similar viewpoints.

In the case of losing weight we will not only justify with those who have not been successful, we will start adding reasons why it had happened and start making new friends of similar ilk. We even go to the extent of liking them, and making them as best buddies! On the movies front, we will start reading more critics reviews that share our views, so we feel happy about the fact we are not alone.

The issue with the above mental state is that we will develop this as a habit, whenever we do not get to the goal we need to reach – and it becomes a whirlpool of negative thoughts and state of mind. So, it is important for us to give importance to even smaller events that may creep into our minds about the negative thoughts that may not only stem from others influence, but also from our makings.

So, when next time we do not lose weight or do not enjoy a movie, try it once again, or continue to speak to those who have been successful J